Two amazing men…one common problem!
In the past month I have began dating again. Ahh yes…dating! That exciting term that means “getting out”, meeting new people…mate searching:) I’ve went out with three potential “suiters” and among the three two I have been EXTREMELY drawn to! Let me just say that me being “EXTREMELY” drawn to anyone does not happen often…if ever!
So why am I writing this…whats with the title? Whats the “common problem” Both suiters share? They are both utilizing anti depressants.
Before I get started on WHAT I feel is a major problem with anti depressants let me say that I speak from experience. Everyone knows that these drugs are VERY common! Everyone knows that if you go to your doctor with anything from feeling down to a missed menstrual cycle you will be handed a script for one of these drugs! Its now become VERY common to hand these out like candy on Halloween!
Before I get started, let me share with you my experience a decade ago with pharmaceuticals…
When I was twenty two years old, I went in to see my gynecologist for missing a few menstrual cycles. During my visit he asked me if “I was sad”…not really I answered. He then told me my being under weight was the cause of my missed cycles and handed me a script for zoloft, a common SSRI! I was twenty two, not the health nut I am today and listened to him because of his white lab coat and “Dr” title.
Over the next year I took that drug. I “existed” through life with a cloudy haze over my eyes! I gained 36 pounds (common with SSRI’s)! I lost my libido and my relationship that I was in suffered. At the end of that year I decided to wing myself off of the drug. To my surprise it was the most difficult battle I ever fought! It made my eating disorder that followed a walk in the park!
Flash forward to three weeks ago. I was speaking to one potential suitor on the phone that shared with me he is using an anti depressant called Wellbutrin. My heart instantly sank! This man is BRILLIANT! Brilliant, creative and such a heart centered man! I found myself instantly going into a rant of pure “you know better” frustration with him (not my style). By the end of the conversation I had calmed down enough to get through to him. He said “Andrea, I think I’m going to get myself off of this stuff”. His decision…a brilliant one. I wished him well.
On to last week…I felt drawn to a friend of a friends….a man who ironically I was going to car pool with from out of town over the thanksgiving Holliday. Its not often that I feel a cosmic pull to a complete stranger after a few long phone calls. Its not common I entertain a date with someone I’ve never met. I did and there we were sitting on my sofa after he extended his stay in California to meet me.
It was difficult to contain myself with this one…another BRILLIANT man and a man who had the ability to make me laugh non stop! This one was a rare gem and I felt pulled towards him even more after meeting him face to face. Then he said it….those words, he asked the question “so what do you think about anti depressants”? I suddenly felt my heart fall on my travertine floor and shatter into a thousand little pieces! I immediately thought….I cannot imagine how brilliant and hilarious this man is off of his meds! He may have even scored on the first date! A first that would have been!
Should I tell him I see it as a weakness…a cowardly way out of feeling your TRUE authentic feelings? Should I tell him it is potentially killing his libido? Should I share my story with him?
I said my peace and let it go, knowing the person I will end up with will never entertain a pharmaceutical crutch.
The bottom line is I could write about the negative effects…I could tell you that doctors are paid by the drug companies to hand these medications out! I could tell you that An analysis of clinical trials in patients under age 18 found that SSRIs raised the risk of suicidal thinking when compared with a placebo. There have been MANY studies like this! Although results vary, there is a consistent trend. When compared with a placebo, all antidepressants, including SSRIs, seem to double the risk of suicidal thinking, from 1%–2% to 2%–4%, in both children and adults. (Study found and quoted via www.health.harvard.edu)
In October 2004, after much hesitation and pressure from parents and Congress, the FDA issued a Black Box Warning for physicians and pharmacists — its strongest available measure short of withdrawing a drug from the market. The warning was placed in all package inserts for all antidepressants. It mentions the risk of suicidal thoughts, hostility, and agitation in children and adults, specifically citing statistical analyses of clinical trials. The FDA has also issued a public advisory to parents, physicians, and pharmacists! Yet, people pop these like candy!
I’m not a doctor….I don’t claim to be the know all of health! I do know this however…..To feel…to truly feel love, heart ache, loss and pain is a part of life! If we attempt to stuff those feelings down with a pill, drugs, alcohol or food, we are not truly living life! All the joys of living, the beautiful parts will be hazed over with a drug induced coma of cloudy thinking and mental obscurity of what life can truly be!
I choose to be present…in this moment! I choose to feel pain, happiness, sadness, excitement and sorrow with my WHOLE body and every fiber of my being! Most of all I choose to share those moments with someone who is feeling his vibrations fully as well!
I Love you and remember…I only want the best for you!